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Welcome to 85Joy85Hope.com. Just click the banner above to view my welcome page / introduction. This page you are on now is my Happy New Year 2018 update.

Apparently this website is my place for an annual review of where I have been and where I hope to go. Sort of a yearly vision statement? I did not know that is what I was building when I built this place, but it feels right to me now. I have been in the phone sex industry for six years now and I think it would have been way cool if I had done an update here for each of those years. You gotta start somewhere! So you can click here to read my 2017 update or scroll down to read my update for this year, 2018.

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First, let me say that it is fascinating to read my 2017 update in hindsight. Last year was absolutely the year of ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE and a year of explosive change. Holy Hell. It was a wild ride.

I am sure it will come as no surprise to know that I see a therapist. There was a time last year when she asked me what I would want for myself more than anything. I told her I would like to move. She asked me how long it would take me to make that a reality and I told her it would probably take me a few years to make that happen. lol Fast forward six months and I am already living 200 miles away in a whole new world. I don't have any clue how I pulled that off. I thank those of you who helped. And I shake my head in wonder at how the Universe conspired to bring me here.


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Last year was painful, I won't lie about that. But the pain made me stronger and braver than I have ever felt. The pain of extreme and comprehensive loss also stripped away the stasis, the lethargy, the need for comfort. I am leaner and meaner and wilder and more free now. More portable. Lighter. Happier. Clearer and more focused. Life is harder, but better. In so many ways. My heart is so strong now!

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My thoughts on pain... There is a magic key. You want to know the answer? There is an answer to fear. You are not going to like the answer. But there is a proven path to lasting happiness. Sit in the horrible pain and stop trying to squirm away from it. Being in the pain is the answer. Eating the pain. Breathing the pain. Learning through the pain. Crying yourself to sleep alone in the pain. The pain is your way through to lasting happiness. No lie. Do what you must to live right in the middle of your darkest oldest pain. Eventually, you will break through. Eventually, you will find your heart again and know a level of happiness that is freedom and strength. Eventually, you will win and the pain will be your tool instead of your dread and everything is different once you break through. Once you own your history, the whole fucked up mess of this world feels so much lighter. The marketers are wrong. Forget about shortcuts. Do the work. Forget consuming and escaping. You deserve wholeness.

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You have to kill the past to make room for the future. The unknown. That sounds unnerving, but it feels so necessary. I feel like 2018 is a time of home coming for me. This new place already feels more like home to me than anywhere I have ever lived. I expect it will also be a year of truth telling and connection building as I seek out new family of my choosing. What will that mean for you, dear callers? That is a very interesting question.


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So far, here are two things I am feeling in my gut about my phone sex path in 2018....

1. I am more inclined now to view my work as work. And that is a good thing. The more I carve out space and time for me to develop the personal life I want - as opposed to the personal life I settled for - the more I see my work life as being about work, not about fulfilling some personal need. That is GOOD for you, dear callers, because the more I see your calls as healthy and fulfilling WORK, the easier it is for me to structure a work day and provide a reliable service on a more reliable schedule.

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2. I feel myself becoming edgier. Not all the time. Not for everyone. If you need my soft nurturing side, do not fear. I am not losing my sweet soul. But this past year involved a ton of hard truths and hard choices and those made me more comfortable with hard things and dark things. So those of you who crave sharp edges will be happy to know that I am more comfortable with my Sadistic side than ever before. I still have not been signing in as The She Wolf. Yet. But I have felt the Wolf energy creeping into my calls with masochistic submissives. And I will be logging on as The She Wolf soon. I feel that time coming in 2018, too.

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If 2017 was the year of ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE, I think 2018 will be the year of BALANCE IS POSSIBLE. Or INNER PEACE is possible. Something like that. I cut all the serious sources of drama from my life in 2017. So 2018 is about me learning how it feels to live in peace and health and joy without guilt or fear. That sounds confusing and weird, but super exciting! Yay!

I am so happy with my life right now. I feel so lucky.


I know this post has not been very sexy, but the more I get my shit together, the less likely I am to burn out, and the more consistently I can provide the amazing experience of submitting to me.

I look forward to bringing uncomplicated joy and silliness and filthy dirty naughty fun to your days in 2018. (Unless you are a fucked up little monster and then I look forward to torturing you and giving you the gift of suffering.) In either case, I expect this to be an amazing year for us all! I think that I am in the process of profound personal growth, but I think the country is also doing some uncomfortable soul searching that will lead us in a healthier direction, too. I am optimistic. With a zen-like peaceful energy, not a frantic manic energy. I just feel great about today and about the coming year.

And I am glad you are mine.

If you are over 18, I look forward to your call,

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